Saturday, May 23, 2009

An Acceptance of Change and and Invitation to a Tea Party

I have never been one to openly embrace Change. I find her naggy and even mean sometimes, but she is always persistent.

When I see Change coming to the door of my metaphorical life, I usually cower in the corner from her, and then shake and cry and rock because she might force her way in. "Don't answer the door. Don't answer. Don't answer. Don't answer to Change." But I always reluctantly do. That's how Change works. Of course she's going to come in. She's invasive like that.

After all my angst and worry, when Change does come in, I eventually get used to her being there. Or maybe it's that I forget that she was unwelcome in the first place. I feel silly for being such a coward, and to make ammends I make a pot of tea for us, we get all cozy and sister-like, and then write in our reflective journals. My entry might read, "Change is not so bad - certainly not as bad as I thought, anyway," and hers would say, "I wish Ginger would be more confident about our relationship. If she had just met me with open arms, we wouldn't have had any sort of struggle."

Change is actually very nice. It's Fear I should watch out for - the same Fear that paralyzes people into inaction, the one that blinds rationality and causes people to do really stupid things.. Honestly, it's Fear that puts me in my corner. Fear sometimes accompanies Change. I'm pretty sure Change wishes Fear would leave her the hell alone, but Fear is insistent, too. He petulantly annoys Change, and he isn't very endearing.

Unfortunately, Fear tends to sneak in with Change. Rather, Change invites Fear to come along under the guise of Responsibility. It's when we allow Fear in with Change that the foundations shake.

So this might potentially be a time of Change for me. I see her coming up the drive. And because I want to live my life without Fear and his asshole cousin, Regret, I'm trying to decide how best to welcome her, to actually embrace her with a huge, all accepting hug, while slamming the door in the faces of the unwelcome visitors.

If only Wisdom were here. She would know how to do this..

10 comments:

tara said...

Wisdom comes to the door too. She hides behind Fear, and cannot, to be honest, live without him. It's your job to help Change teach Wisdom to stop hiding.

And when you figure it out, let me know. Because I could have written this myself, girl.

Yaya said...

What beautiful writing you have. Yes, I hate change as well, but you're right, in the end it is always for the better.

Jen said...

I can't wait to hear what Change has in store for you! Love this post! You are such a great writer!

You are stronger than you realize! Change is always scary but SO needed in order to grow and learn new things!! Good luck!! Love you!

Amy said...

I love how you brought change into your post. What a great style of writing. I can't wait to see what changes come to. For me my changes are going to be with Alyce I smell something strange coming from her.

Pam said...

I think you'll find Wisdom if you look in the mirror. It has to come from you.

Christine said...

I love Change. I put her in my car's ashtray and use her to buy Oreo Frosties. Of course, that action on my part invites Fear to carjack me and whisper in my ear about size 14 jeans. And sometimes Regret follows me home and punches me in the stomach, making me not want to eat a good dinner. But usually I can convince Wisdom to defend me, saying, "Do you see how hard she works? She earned that Frosty, bitches. Now get out of the house!"

Aw... thanks, Wisdom. Now if you could only show me how to do my job and stay sane(ish) at the same time.


ps - I really like your post. I just had to be a smartass. Because that's how I roll.

msprimadonna67 said...

Well said. I love a good extended metaphor. (More than I love Change, anyway. I'm kind of with you on that one.)

Kathy B! said...

This is beautifully written. LOVE it.

Now for the bad news... I think fear and change might actually be siamese twins! If you slam the door on one I always seem to hit the other one as well. But fear has a bad attitude so if you just persevere and ignore him he'll shut up and leave you alone.

Go for it!!!!!!!!!!!

Ginger said...

You guys are, as usual, so completely supportive. Unfortunately, with acceptance of change comes the stng of disappointment. Perhaps change is further away than I thought and I'll have to learn to deal with patience..

♥ Laura ♥ said...

another excellent post that I can completely relate to. Keep these coming. L

Saturday, May 23, 2009

An Acceptance of Change and and Invitation to a Tea Party

I have never been one to openly embrace Change. I find her naggy and even mean sometimes, but she is always persistent.

When I see Change coming to the door of my metaphorical life, I usually cower in the corner from her, and then shake and cry and rock because she might force her way in. "Don't answer the door. Don't answer. Don't answer. Don't answer to Change." But I always reluctantly do. That's how Change works. Of course she's going to come in. She's invasive like that.

After all my angst and worry, when Change does come in, I eventually get used to her being there. Or maybe it's that I forget that she was unwelcome in the first place. I feel silly for being such a coward, and to make ammends I make a pot of tea for us, we get all cozy and sister-like, and then write in our reflective journals. My entry might read, "Change is not so bad - certainly not as bad as I thought, anyway," and hers would say, "I wish Ginger would be more confident about our relationship. If she had just met me with open arms, we wouldn't have had any sort of struggle."

Change is actually very nice. It's Fear I should watch out for - the same Fear that paralyzes people into inaction, the one that blinds rationality and causes people to do really stupid things.. Honestly, it's Fear that puts me in my corner. Fear sometimes accompanies Change. I'm pretty sure Change wishes Fear would leave her the hell alone, but Fear is insistent, too. He petulantly annoys Change, and he isn't very endearing.

Unfortunately, Fear tends to sneak in with Change. Rather, Change invites Fear to come along under the guise of Responsibility. It's when we allow Fear in with Change that the foundations shake.

So this might potentially be a time of Change for me. I see her coming up the drive. And because I want to live my life without Fear and his asshole cousin, Regret, I'm trying to decide how best to welcome her, to actually embrace her with a huge, all accepting hug, while slamming the door in the faces of the unwelcome visitors.

If only Wisdom were here. She would know how to do this..

10 comments:

tara said...

Wisdom comes to the door too. She hides behind Fear, and cannot, to be honest, live without him. It's your job to help Change teach Wisdom to stop hiding.

And when you figure it out, let me know. Because I could have written this myself, girl.

Yaya said...

What beautiful writing you have. Yes, I hate change as well, but you're right, in the end it is always for the better.

Jen said...

I can't wait to hear what Change has in store for you! Love this post! You are such a great writer!

You are stronger than you realize! Change is always scary but SO needed in order to grow and learn new things!! Good luck!! Love you!

Amy said...

I love how you brought change into your post. What a great style of writing. I can't wait to see what changes come to. For me my changes are going to be with Alyce I smell something strange coming from her.

Pam said...

I think you'll find Wisdom if you look in the mirror. It has to come from you.

Christine said...

I love Change. I put her in my car's ashtray and use her to buy Oreo Frosties. Of course, that action on my part invites Fear to carjack me and whisper in my ear about size 14 jeans. And sometimes Regret follows me home and punches me in the stomach, making me not want to eat a good dinner. But usually I can convince Wisdom to defend me, saying, "Do you see how hard she works? She earned that Frosty, bitches. Now get out of the house!"

Aw... thanks, Wisdom. Now if you could only show me how to do my job and stay sane(ish) at the same time.


ps - I really like your post. I just had to be a smartass. Because that's how I roll.

msprimadonna67 said...

Well said. I love a good extended metaphor. (More than I love Change, anyway. I'm kind of with you on that one.)

Kathy B! said...

This is beautifully written. LOVE it.

Now for the bad news... I think fear and change might actually be siamese twins! If you slam the door on one I always seem to hit the other one as well. But fear has a bad attitude so if you just persevere and ignore him he'll shut up and leave you alone.

Go for it!!!!!!!!!!!

Ginger said...

You guys are, as usual, so completely supportive. Unfortunately, with acceptance of change comes the stng of disappointment. Perhaps change is further away than I thought and I'll have to learn to deal with patience..

♥ Laura ♥ said...

another excellent post that I can completely relate to. Keep these coming. L